Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Bringing Up Girls

This is a new book out by Dr. James Dobson. Many have read Bringing Up Boys by him and if you have not and you have boys I would highly recommend. It is a great book for couples but will be very helpful if you are a single parent. I may re-read it and do a commentary on it.

Chapter 1: The Wonderful World of Girls
Dr. Dobson shares some letters he received from girls about writing a Bringing up Girls book and other stuff he had written that girls were not happy about. So there are some funny letters. He also quotes King Solomon in Proverbs 22:6 and Paul in Ephesians 6:4. Which are to Train up a child...and Fathers don't exasperate...
We need to be teaching our girls to be modest, have morals and have manners. He talks about his love for his little girl Danae now all grown up.

Chapter 2 : Girls in Peril
This chapter starts out by telling us info. from his Bringing Up Boys book which states that boys are more likely to have learning disabilities, to be drug addicts, and to be emotionally disturbed.
They are at greater risk for schizophrenia, autism, sexual addiction, alcoholism, to commit murder, to die in a car accident, etc.
Girls on the other hand do much better in education and in graduating from high school and college. Where they do have problems is emotionally and physically. Girls today are under much more pressure then we were as kids/teens/adults. Eating disorders are starting earlier and are at an all time high. Now a days it starts at ages 5 and 6 with body image issues. 40% of 9 and 10 year old have attempted to lose weight. And by the time they are 15 more then 60% of girls will have used harmful substances and other methods to lose weight.
The next problem we are seeing in middle and high school girls is cutting, self mutilating, and piercing many parts of their bodies.
They are looking at "bad girls" such as Brittney Spears, Angelina Jolie, Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan etc. as role models.
A growing number of girls more then boys are binge drinking and when you drink that much you do things that normally you would not do. There is also a higher number of younger girls that are involved in sex for hire and they tend to be girls from a middle class family.
Dobson also includes some articles that others have wrote related to raising girls today.
Some of the bad influences on our girls is MTV, the Internet, hip-hop, some public schools, liberal Universities, and other institutions that are warping our young women.
There is also the problem of children who are lonely. Their parents are gone much of the time leaving them to fend for themselves. Or their parents are overworked, distracted, exhausted and uninvolved. Human beings desperately need each other. Lonely children will get into trouble.

Now this next bit of info. shocked me and my mouth is still on the ground as I can hardly believe it. It is shown that a few years back $1.6 million dollars was spent on thong underwear for 7-12 year old girls. What is wrong with these parents and/or mothers. I still am in shock as I write this that a mom would buy her 7, 8, 9, 10, 11 or 12 year old thong underwear!!! If at this age your daughter needs or wants a thong to feel pretty or sexy then you have a MAJOR problem on your hands and need to seek help ASAP!!!
Dr. Dobson ends this chapter with you the parents can provide the care and guidance that is needed in raising girls in today's world.

1 comment:

David Rieke said...

Thank you for reviewing and summarizing this excellent book. I read it some time ago and needed to review its highlights for a lesson I'm teaching (I'm a pastor in Virginia Beach). This helps me so much.