I asked Darryl if he remembered what happened 21 years ago this weekend and also 20 years ago this weekend. I was surprised that he did.
21 years ago on this weekend Vernon and Betty Studt invited my parents to come out to Darryl's cabin in Ivanhoe to celebrate the holiday. At this point I just finished up my junior year of high school and don't remember if I really wanted to go but did. We get down there and to my surprise Darryl was lookin' good. I didn't remember him from living in Lisbon because I was so young when we lived here and he was starting his teen years. But he had his girlfriend Charlie down there and I was dating a guy from work at the time.
Then a year later and all had changed. Pat and I had broke up and so when the invite came to go visit the Studt's again, I thought I would go with my mom and dad to see if Darryl was still with Charlie or not. I head to Mt.Vernon and found out that he too was single. Now I had just graduated from high school and Darryl was celebrating 10 years out of high school. My gosh I was young! It was a fun day and I invited Darryl to graduation party happening sometime later that week.
He did show up and then we dated for a year and a half and were engaged for a year and a half.
And so on this weekend 20 years ago I met my husband. Wow how time flies!!
The life of Shannon in small town Lisbon.
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Friday, May 21, 2010
Bringing Up Girls Chapters 7 & 8
Chapter 7: Girls and Their Mothers
He opens by telling a story of a 7 yr. old strong-willed girl Hannah. Her and her mom were having a bad day when Hannah said "You know, Mom, this just isn't working out. I want a new mother."
Her mom told her that she could arrange that and that she of someone who would love to have another child. She went to the phone pretended to dial and talk and ask this fake person if they would like another child. Hannah's bluff backfired as she immediately ran to her mom and said "No no,no, Mom! Let's give it another shot."
As moms we need to stay in touch with our daughters emotionally. You have to hang in there until the upheaval passes. Your child's successes or failures in many life's endeavors will depend on the quality of the relationships you share during their childhood years.
The attachment theory: He talks about neurology stuff similar to Chapter 4 and then adds more on to it. Then he goes on saying how your baby needs you to look at her, and talking to her. If this doesn't happen in the early years children will have problems later on in life. It has been demonstrated that the failure of mothers and babies to attach is linked directly to physical and mental illness of all types.
So the opposite happens when the mother is nurturing, loving and a part of her babies life. She will talk to the baby , comfort them, nurse them, sing to them etc. From this the bond begins to form. It will establish a foundation for all that lies ahead.
Moms, you provide the cornerstone of healthy child development.
The establishment of attachment between generations is made much more difficult for boys and girls because of dramatic changes in our culture. Before the Industrial revolution, father and mothers worked side by side on farms or in family-owned businesses. They raised their children together, and except for men in the military or those who sailed the seas, most dads lived and worked close to home. Just as Joseph was a carpenter so was Jesus (Mark 6:3 & Matt. 13:55). We assume that Mary was a full time homemaker living nearby. That family home structure is now rarely seen. Only in the last 100 years have fathers left home all day to make a living. Now approximately 51% of mothers are also employed full-time in the workforce. Plus most children now a days are taught for 8 hours by men/women other then their parents. Unless you choose to homeschool you are not able to spend all day everyday with your children as it once was.
For women there is enormous pressure to "go back to work". Only about 42% of mothers take off 3 months after giving birth. Many return within a month or six weeks. I would recommend that mothers take at least a year off birth to heal, bond and establish a family routine.
He goes on to talk more about the working outside the home and your heart wanting to be at home internal conflict that many women go through.
Chapter 8: Young Women Talk About Their Fathers
This Chapter and next have to deal with fathers. It was very interesting and it made me cry in different places. It will be hard to say everything these young ladies said but I will try to give highlights of both positive and negatives.
Dr. Dobson held a get together with young ladies at college age to help him with writing this book. He told them that he had heard this comment given many times by young ladies "My father is a good man. He worked hard to earn a living for our family, and he's been faithful to my mother (others said just the opposite). Still, I never that he really admired or wanted to be close to me. He was very, very, very busy doing what he did, but he didn't have time for me. I felt like I was just there around the house, but he often didn't even seem to notice me."
Then Dr. Dobson asked the young ladies in the group....Was this something that others of you have also experienced?
Girl #1 What you just said, Dr. Dobson, describes exactly what I feel. And I've heard it from so many of my friends. In fact, our greatest uneasiness about getting married is the fear that our future husbands will not be affirming and caring.
Girl #2 It is essential that girls get affirmation from their dads. I didn't receive that and it is the foundation of all my insecurities.
Girl #3 My dad was a good father but he compared me to girls in the media and complained that I didn't look like them. He told me that I didn't work out enough, he would also call attention to what I would eat. So I was not a full-fledged anorexic, I guess, but I worked out all the time, and sometime wouldn't eat anything.
Then other girls told of struggles they have because of their relationships with their fathers.
Girl #6 My father was not like that. He told my sister and me that it was inner beauty that mattered. He would also tell us how beautiful we were on the outside. That's what got me through junior high and high school.
Girl #7 I've had such a different experience, and I realize that much of who I am is because of the affirmation I received growing up. One of the things that I love to hear is when my family says, "Oh you look cute." My dad told me that all the time, and it has just meant so much coming from my own father.
Girl #10 Just recently I received a valentine's e-mail from my father. It was the first card or e-mail he has sent me since I was 7 years old, and it meant the world to me.
It goes on for a few more pages with young ladies sharing the good and not so good relationships that they had with their fathers.
So I guess it makes you think to what kind of relationship did your dad have with you and what kind of relationship does your husband have with your daughter.
I told Darryl that I wanted him to read this chapter and the next one which is Why Daddies Matter. Because I was a daughter and I am a women I can help him out in anything I see with ways he is building his relationship with our daughter. Just as he can feel free to make suggestions to me as a mother to our son and what he may need from me if I'm missing giving him something. Think and pray about it and act on what God is showing you to do to make you and your husband have a wonderful relationship with your daughter.
He opens by telling a story of a 7 yr. old strong-willed girl Hannah. Her and her mom were having a bad day when Hannah said "You know, Mom, this just isn't working out. I want a new mother."
Her mom told her that she could arrange that and that she of someone who would love to have another child. She went to the phone pretended to dial and talk and ask this fake person if they would like another child. Hannah's bluff backfired as she immediately ran to her mom and said "No no,no, Mom! Let's give it another shot."
As moms we need to stay in touch with our daughters emotionally. You have to hang in there until the upheaval passes. Your child's successes or failures in many life's endeavors will depend on the quality of the relationships you share during their childhood years.
The attachment theory: He talks about neurology stuff similar to Chapter 4 and then adds more on to it. Then he goes on saying how your baby needs you to look at her, and talking to her. If this doesn't happen in the early years children will have problems later on in life. It has been demonstrated that the failure of mothers and babies to attach is linked directly to physical and mental illness of all types.
So the opposite happens when the mother is nurturing, loving and a part of her babies life. She will talk to the baby , comfort them, nurse them, sing to them etc. From this the bond begins to form. It will establish a foundation for all that lies ahead.
Moms, you provide the cornerstone of healthy child development.
The establishment of attachment between generations is made much more difficult for boys and girls because of dramatic changes in our culture. Before the Industrial revolution, father and mothers worked side by side on farms or in family-owned businesses. They raised their children together, and except for men in the military or those who sailed the seas, most dads lived and worked close to home. Just as Joseph was a carpenter so was Jesus (Mark 6:3 & Matt. 13:55). We assume that Mary was a full time homemaker living nearby. That family home structure is now rarely seen. Only in the last 100 years have fathers left home all day to make a living. Now approximately 51% of mothers are also employed full-time in the workforce. Plus most children now a days are taught for 8 hours by men/women other then their parents. Unless you choose to homeschool you are not able to spend all day everyday with your children as it once was.
For women there is enormous pressure to "go back to work". Only about 42% of mothers take off 3 months after giving birth. Many return within a month or six weeks. I would recommend that mothers take at least a year off birth to heal, bond and establish a family routine.
He goes on to talk more about the working outside the home and your heart wanting to be at home internal conflict that many women go through.
Chapter 8: Young Women Talk About Their Fathers
This Chapter and next have to deal with fathers. It was very interesting and it made me cry in different places. It will be hard to say everything these young ladies said but I will try to give highlights of both positive and negatives.
Dr. Dobson held a get together with young ladies at college age to help him with writing this book. He told them that he had heard this comment given many times by young ladies "My father is a good man. He worked hard to earn a living for our family, and he's been faithful to my mother (others said just the opposite). Still, I never that he really admired or wanted to be close to me. He was very, very, very busy doing what he did, but he didn't have time for me. I felt like I was just there around the house, but he often didn't even seem to notice me."
Then Dr. Dobson asked the young ladies in the group....Was this something that others of you have also experienced?
Girl #1 What you just said, Dr. Dobson, describes exactly what I feel. And I've heard it from so many of my friends. In fact, our greatest uneasiness about getting married is the fear that our future husbands will not be affirming and caring.
Girl #2 It is essential that girls get affirmation from their dads. I didn't receive that and it is the foundation of all my insecurities.
Girl #3 My dad was a good father but he compared me to girls in the media and complained that I didn't look like them. He told me that I didn't work out enough, he would also call attention to what I would eat. So I was not a full-fledged anorexic, I guess, but I worked out all the time, and sometime wouldn't eat anything.
Then other girls told of struggles they have because of their relationships with their fathers.
Girl #6 My father was not like that. He told my sister and me that it was inner beauty that mattered. He would also tell us how beautiful we were on the outside. That's what got me through junior high and high school.
Girl #7 I've had such a different experience, and I realize that much of who I am is because of the affirmation I received growing up. One of the things that I love to hear is when my family says, "Oh you look cute." My dad told me that all the time, and it has just meant so much coming from my own father.
Girl #10 Just recently I received a valentine's e-mail from my father. It was the first card or e-mail he has sent me since I was 7 years old, and it meant the world to me.
It goes on for a few more pages with young ladies sharing the good and not so good relationships that they had with their fathers.
So I guess it makes you think to what kind of relationship did your dad have with you and what kind of relationship does your husband have with your daughter.
I told Darryl that I wanted him to read this chapter and the next one which is Why Daddies Matter. Because I was a daughter and I am a women I can help him out in anything I see with ways he is building his relationship with our daughter. Just as he can feel free to make suggestions to me as a mother to our son and what he may need from me if I'm missing giving him something. Think and pray about it and act on what God is showing you to do to make you and your husband have a wonderful relationship with your daughter.
Friday, May 14, 2010
Bringing Up Girls Chapters 5 & 6
As I sit here at the computer with my Chai Latte in my CBC mug I will try to go over Chapters 5 & 6 of Dr. Dobson's book. It hits home to me and thing I've compromised just because I'm a women and can do it myself. But you do miss out on the little things so here goes......
Chapter 5: Teaching Girls to be Ladies
Dr. Dobson starts out by getting into our 2nd President of the US John Adams and puts in a quote on manners from an autobiography. The language is different from ours today but it was still good. It is too long for me to re-type but I will quote the last paragraph. "The foundations of national Morality must be laid in private Families. In vain are Schools, Academics and universities instituted if loose Principles and licentious habits are impressed upon Children in their earliest years. The Mothers are the earliest and most important Instructors of youth.
I find this quote to be so good and insightful for way back when. I can't imagine what President Adams would think of our school systems today and what is taught and how low morals have gotten. You have to be pretty involved and on the stricter side as a mom to lay down the Moral foundation that President Adams is talking of.
Dr. Dobson says if we choose evil, there will be no stopping us. In short, our national sovereignty depends on the transmission of the nation's morals and manners to children, and that task should begin in the nursery.
In today's culture young girls are often allowed, and even encouraged, to be brash, rude, crude, profane, immodest, immoral, loud and aggressive. He feels this is because way too many parents have become far too distracted, overworked and stressed out to care to much about teaching morals and manners to children. A quote from Fred Astaire " The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any."
So once again to moms out there it is your job to acculturate your daughters and help them become ladies. Our daughters should be taught how to eat, talk, walk, dress, converse on the telephone, and respond to adults with respect and poise. As parents we should demonstrate good posture and table manners for them, such as putting a napkin in the lap, showing them where to place silverware, and not talking with food in their mouths. They should also explain that burping, gobbling food and picking teeth are rude. He also believes that you should require your kids to say please and thank you. We also need to teach techniques of personal grooming, hygiene and nutrition.
Dr. Dobson then talks about some ways to role play on teaching your children communication skills.
He then talks about some different etiquette businesses around (so sad that we send our girls to learn etiquette when it is our job to teach them at home-side note by me) and a book called 365 Manners Kids Should Know by Sheryl Eberly. His wife Shirley would have elaborate tea parties with their daughter Danae to help teach good etiquette. Danae loved them and they would invite others from the neighborhood to join them. Another source is the book Everyday Graces: A Child's Book of Good Manners by Karen Santorum. She is a mother of 8 and a homeschool mom whose husband is former Senator Rick Santorum of Penn.
As moms we need to also teach out daughters how to be treated on a date. If a guy wants to date your daughter and he comes to pick her up and honks for her to come out, as a dad go out and tell him to continue on his way. Don't let your daughter be treated in that manner. The date needs to open the door for her, take her somewhere nice to eat, pay for the bill and then take her home and not expect anything in return. We need to not only teach our son's that this is how you treat a lady but need to train our daughters that this is the respect you deserve. Why is this disrespect allowed to go on today in our society because girls tolerate it.
Side note from me I was taught on how I should be treated on a date and didn't pay for it and the guy did have to come up to the house and open my car door etc. I told Darryl last night that we need to be doing that more. Sometimes he does open the door sometimes not. When we go to a fast food restaurant I usually do the ordering and he now needs to. Just little things like that, that the kids see and so we need to set a better example for Trevor on how to treat a lady even after he has been married 17 years and for Alivia on how she should be treated even after being married for 17 years.
It comes down to this: the relationship between a man and women throughout their lives together, if indeed they do marry, will reflect the ground rules set by the women when they are courting. She can change him then, but probably not after.
We also need to teach our girls strong biblical foundation from which morals and virtues can evolve.
Chapter 6 : Embarrassing The Angels
He starts out with talking about a author, lecturer and columnist for the Wall Street Journal Peggy Noonan. She had wrote a piece about on what it means to be a lady that made he stand up and cheer. In that piece so goes on to describe if you are a chosen women at airport security to be checked and that 50 years ago it would have been considered second-degree assault. She tells step by step the awful thing she had to endure.
This chapter is about what Peggy wrote and her experience with airport security. Dobson does end the chapter by saying that parents need to work diligently to teach, shape, and form the character of their daughters. And that if MTV, Hollywood and pop music industry, and peers have their way with your girls, they are likely to curse, dress provocatively, behave like uncultured and uncouth waifs and have no sense of personal dignity. Remember mom you are the keeper of the keys at home. Teach your girls to be ladies.
Chapter 5: Teaching Girls to be Ladies
Dr. Dobson starts out by getting into our 2nd President of the US John Adams and puts in a quote on manners from an autobiography. The language is different from ours today but it was still good. It is too long for me to re-type but I will quote the last paragraph. "The foundations of national Morality must be laid in private Families. In vain are Schools, Academics and universities instituted if loose Principles and licentious habits are impressed upon Children in their earliest years. The Mothers are the earliest and most important Instructors of youth.
I find this quote to be so good and insightful for way back when. I can't imagine what President Adams would think of our school systems today and what is taught and how low morals have gotten. You have to be pretty involved and on the stricter side as a mom to lay down the Moral foundation that President Adams is talking of.
Dr. Dobson says if we choose evil, there will be no stopping us. In short, our national sovereignty depends on the transmission of the nation's morals and manners to children, and that task should begin in the nursery.
In today's culture young girls are often allowed, and even encouraged, to be brash, rude, crude, profane, immodest, immoral, loud and aggressive. He feels this is because way too many parents have become far too distracted, overworked and stressed out to care to much about teaching morals and manners to children. A quote from Fred Astaire " The hardest job kids face today is learning good manners without seeing any."
So once again to moms out there it is your job to acculturate your daughters and help them become ladies. Our daughters should be taught how to eat, talk, walk, dress, converse on the telephone, and respond to adults with respect and poise. As parents we should demonstrate good posture and table manners for them, such as putting a napkin in the lap, showing them where to place silverware, and not talking with food in their mouths. They should also explain that burping, gobbling food and picking teeth are rude. He also believes that you should require your kids to say please and thank you. We also need to teach techniques of personal grooming, hygiene and nutrition.
Dr. Dobson then talks about some ways to role play on teaching your children communication skills.
He then talks about some different etiquette businesses around (so sad that we send our girls to learn etiquette when it is our job to teach them at home-side note by me) and a book called 365 Manners Kids Should Know by Sheryl Eberly. His wife Shirley would have elaborate tea parties with their daughter Danae to help teach good etiquette. Danae loved them and they would invite others from the neighborhood to join them. Another source is the book Everyday Graces: A Child's Book of Good Manners by Karen Santorum. She is a mother of 8 and a homeschool mom whose husband is former Senator Rick Santorum of Penn.
As moms we need to also teach out daughters how to be treated on a date. If a guy wants to date your daughter and he comes to pick her up and honks for her to come out, as a dad go out and tell him to continue on his way. Don't let your daughter be treated in that manner. The date needs to open the door for her, take her somewhere nice to eat, pay for the bill and then take her home and not expect anything in return. We need to not only teach our son's that this is how you treat a lady but need to train our daughters that this is the respect you deserve. Why is this disrespect allowed to go on today in our society because girls tolerate it.
Side note from me I was taught on how I should be treated on a date and didn't pay for it and the guy did have to come up to the house and open my car door etc. I told Darryl last night that we need to be doing that more. Sometimes he does open the door sometimes not. When we go to a fast food restaurant I usually do the ordering and he now needs to. Just little things like that, that the kids see and so we need to set a better example for Trevor on how to treat a lady even after he has been married 17 years and for Alivia on how she should be treated even after being married for 17 years.
It comes down to this: the relationship between a man and women throughout their lives together, if indeed they do marry, will reflect the ground rules set by the women when they are courting. She can change him then, but probably not after.
We also need to teach our girls strong biblical foundation from which morals and virtues can evolve.
Chapter 6 : Embarrassing The Angels
He starts out with talking about a author, lecturer and columnist for the Wall Street Journal Peggy Noonan. She had wrote a piece about on what it means to be a lady that made he stand up and cheer. In that piece so goes on to describe if you are a chosen women at airport security to be checked and that 50 years ago it would have been considered second-degree assault. She tells step by step the awful thing she had to endure.
This chapter is about what Peggy wrote and her experience with airport security. Dobson does end the chapter by saying that parents need to work diligently to teach, shape, and form the character of their daughters. And that if MTV, Hollywood and pop music industry, and peers have their way with your girls, they are likely to curse, dress provocatively, behave like uncultured and uncouth waifs and have no sense of personal dignity. Remember mom you are the keeper of the keys at home. Teach your girls to be ladies.
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Bringing up Girls Chapters 3 & 4
Chapter 3: The Fair Sex
Dr. Dobson talks about a long car trip they took as a family. One of the times they were re-fueling a stray dog came wondering over. Danae gave it much attention and begged to be able to keep the dog that had no home. Even as the dog was chasing their car as they drove off she had many many tears and pleaded with me to go back and get the dog. But we could not take the dog.
Girls are compassionate and have gentle temperaments yet can also be catty, rebellious and downright brutal to peers.
He talks about a study he did for another book of his called "What wives wish their husbands knew about women". Side note maybe we should try to get our husband involved in a study on this book :) Anyway he did a survey about depression. He found that the most common source of depression among these women was low self-esteem. More then 50% listed it as the number 1 source, and 80% put it in there top 5.
He talks about Chris Evert-tennis star, Madonna-singer, Oprah Winfrey, and Melissa Gilbert all very successful women and there struggle with low self-esteem and feeling of importance outside of their jobs.
He believes there are ways to instill a strong self-esteem in our daughters. It begins within the security of a loving family. Specifically it depends on a caring and affirming father. He lets us know about a book "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" and quotes some info from that book. I think I will find this for Darryl to read along with this chapter about a dad's role.
Dad's can do this by telling their daughters that they are pretty, hugging her, and compliment her. Build her confidence by giving her your time and attention. Defend her when she is struggling. And let her know she has a place in your heart that is reserved only for her.
He then talks about leaving a job he had in order to be at home more to be able and spend time with his family and how God has blessed him in making that decision.
Chapter 4: Why She Is Who She Is
Here he gets into the development in the womb and how from common test today like MRI, CAT and PET there is a definite difference between the sexes and this whole unisex movement was so wrong. He quotes information from two books The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine and The Wonder of Girls by Michael Gurian.
Both brains of the female and male appear to be the same until the eighth week of pregnancy when the male brain is washed by a huge surge of testosterone. This male sex hormone kills some of the communication cells. And in girls between 3-6 months of age experience "juvenile puberty". Their tiny ovaries start producing adult doses of estrogen. This estrogenic bath will continue until girls are about 3 years old.
So in all females are finely tuned machines that operate according to fixed timetables.
Dr. Dobson goes on and talks more about the brain functions of boys and girls and how different they are which is why we are so different. Females because of this difference need to talk. Especially about what they are feeling. So busy moms and dads who are too exhausted at the end of your day to talk with your daughters no matter what the age need to make time at the dinner table or before they go to bed. it is imperative that you tune in to your kids - especially your girls.
Dr. Dobson talks about a long car trip they took as a family. One of the times they were re-fueling a stray dog came wondering over. Danae gave it much attention and begged to be able to keep the dog that had no home. Even as the dog was chasing their car as they drove off she had many many tears and pleaded with me to go back and get the dog. But we could not take the dog.
Girls are compassionate and have gentle temperaments yet can also be catty, rebellious and downright brutal to peers.
He talks about a study he did for another book of his called "What wives wish their husbands knew about women". Side note maybe we should try to get our husband involved in a study on this book :) Anyway he did a survey about depression. He found that the most common source of depression among these women was low self-esteem. More then 50% listed it as the number 1 source, and 80% put it in there top 5.
He talks about Chris Evert-tennis star, Madonna-singer, Oprah Winfrey, and Melissa Gilbert all very successful women and there struggle with low self-esteem and feeling of importance outside of their jobs.
He believes there are ways to instill a strong self-esteem in our daughters. It begins within the security of a loving family. Specifically it depends on a caring and affirming father. He lets us know about a book "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" and quotes some info from that book. I think I will find this for Darryl to read along with this chapter about a dad's role.
Dad's can do this by telling their daughters that they are pretty, hugging her, and compliment her. Build her confidence by giving her your time and attention. Defend her when she is struggling. And let her know she has a place in your heart that is reserved only for her.
He then talks about leaving a job he had in order to be at home more to be able and spend time with his family and how God has blessed him in making that decision.
Chapter 4: Why She Is Who She Is
Here he gets into the development in the womb and how from common test today like MRI, CAT and PET there is a definite difference between the sexes and this whole unisex movement was so wrong. He quotes information from two books The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine and The Wonder of Girls by Michael Gurian.
Both brains of the female and male appear to be the same until the eighth week of pregnancy when the male brain is washed by a huge surge of testosterone. This male sex hormone kills some of the communication cells. And in girls between 3-6 months of age experience "juvenile puberty". Their tiny ovaries start producing adult doses of estrogen. This estrogenic bath will continue until girls are about 3 years old.
So in all females are finely tuned machines that operate according to fixed timetables.
Dr. Dobson goes on and talks more about the brain functions of boys and girls and how different they are which is why we are so different. Females because of this difference need to talk. Especially about what they are feeling. So busy moms and dads who are too exhausted at the end of your day to talk with your daughters no matter what the age need to make time at the dinner table or before they go to bed. it is imperative that you tune in to your kids - especially your girls.
Bringing Up Girls
This is a new book out by Dr. James Dobson. Many have read Bringing Up Boys by him and if you have not and you have boys I would highly recommend. It is a great book for couples but will be very helpful if you are a single parent. I may re-read it and do a commentary on it.
Chapter 1: The Wonderful World of Girls
Dr. Dobson shares some letters he received from girls about writing a Bringing up Girls book and other stuff he had written that girls were not happy about. So there are some funny letters. He also quotes King Solomon in Proverbs 22:6 and Paul in Ephesians 6:4. Which are to Train up a child...and Fathers don't exasperate...
We need to be teaching our girls to be modest, have morals and have manners. He talks about his love for his little girl Danae now all grown up.
Chapter 2 : Girls in Peril
This chapter starts out by telling us info. from his Bringing Up Boys book which states that boys are more likely to have learning disabilities, to be drug addicts, and to be emotionally disturbed.
They are at greater risk for schizophrenia, autism, sexual addiction, alcoholism, to commit murder, to die in a car accident, etc.
Girls on the other hand do much better in education and in graduating from high school and college. Where they do have problems is emotionally and physically. Girls today are under much more pressure then we were as kids/teens/adults. Eating disorders are starting earlier and are at an all time high. Now a days it starts at ages 5 and 6 with body image issues. 40% of 9 and 10 year old have attempted to lose weight. And by the time they are 15 more then 60% of girls will have used harmful substances and other methods to lose weight.
The next problem we are seeing in middle and high school girls is cutting, self mutilating, and piercing many parts of their bodies.
They are looking at "bad girls" such as Brittney Spears, Angelina Jolie, Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan etc. as role models.
A growing number of girls more then boys are binge drinking and when you drink that much you do things that normally you would not do. There is also a higher number of younger girls that are involved in sex for hire and they tend to be girls from a middle class family.
Dobson also includes some articles that others have wrote related to raising girls today.
Some of the bad influences on our girls is MTV, the Internet, hip-hop, some public schools, liberal Universities, and other institutions that are warping our young women.
There is also the problem of children who are lonely. Their parents are gone much of the time leaving them to fend for themselves. Or their parents are overworked, distracted, exhausted and uninvolved. Human beings desperately need each other. Lonely children will get into trouble.
Now this next bit of info. shocked me and my mouth is still on the ground as I can hardly believe it. It is shown that a few years back $1.6 million dollars was spent on thong underwear for 7-12 year old girls. What is wrong with these parents and/or mothers. I still am in shock as I write this that a mom would buy her 7, 8, 9, 10, 11 or 12 year old thong underwear!!! If at this age your daughter needs or wants a thong to feel pretty or sexy then you have a MAJOR problem on your hands and need to seek help ASAP!!!
Dr. Dobson ends this chapter with you the parents can provide the care and guidance that is needed in raising girls in today's world.
Chapter 1: The Wonderful World of Girls
Dr. Dobson shares some letters he received from girls about writing a Bringing up Girls book and other stuff he had written that girls were not happy about. So there are some funny letters. He also quotes King Solomon in Proverbs 22:6 and Paul in Ephesians 6:4. Which are to Train up a child...and Fathers don't exasperate...
We need to be teaching our girls to be modest, have morals and have manners. He talks about his love for his little girl Danae now all grown up.
Chapter 2 : Girls in Peril
This chapter starts out by telling us info. from his Bringing Up Boys book which states that boys are more likely to have learning disabilities, to be drug addicts, and to be emotionally disturbed.
They are at greater risk for schizophrenia, autism, sexual addiction, alcoholism, to commit murder, to die in a car accident, etc.
Girls on the other hand do much better in education and in graduating from high school and college. Where they do have problems is emotionally and physically. Girls today are under much more pressure then we were as kids/teens/adults. Eating disorders are starting earlier and are at an all time high. Now a days it starts at ages 5 and 6 with body image issues. 40% of 9 and 10 year old have attempted to lose weight. And by the time they are 15 more then 60% of girls will have used harmful substances and other methods to lose weight.
The next problem we are seeing in middle and high school girls is cutting, self mutilating, and piercing many parts of their bodies.
They are looking at "bad girls" such as Brittney Spears, Angelina Jolie, Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan etc. as role models.
A growing number of girls more then boys are binge drinking and when you drink that much you do things that normally you would not do. There is also a higher number of younger girls that are involved in sex for hire and they tend to be girls from a middle class family.
Dobson also includes some articles that others have wrote related to raising girls today.
Some of the bad influences on our girls is MTV, the Internet, hip-hop, some public schools, liberal Universities, and other institutions that are warping our young women.
There is also the problem of children who are lonely. Their parents are gone much of the time leaving them to fend for themselves. Or their parents are overworked, distracted, exhausted and uninvolved. Human beings desperately need each other. Lonely children will get into trouble.
Now this next bit of info. shocked me and my mouth is still on the ground as I can hardly believe it. It is shown that a few years back $1.6 million dollars was spent on thong underwear for 7-12 year old girls. What is wrong with these parents and/or mothers. I still am in shock as I write this that a mom would buy her 7, 8, 9, 10, 11 or 12 year old thong underwear!!! If at this age your daughter needs or wants a thong to feel pretty or sexy then you have a MAJOR problem on your hands and need to seek help ASAP!!!
Dr. Dobson ends this chapter with you the parents can provide the care and guidance that is needed in raising girls in today's world.
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